This is me today. I am choosing to continue moving forward. I am continuing to face and let go of my emotional baggage. It is like having a moment of weightlessness, this whole “touchy feely therapy” stuff. It seems like the more fears I face, which are very, very difficult, the more weightless I feel.
I have begun having conversations with people to discuss things that I have always been so afraid to just say. I know it sounds easy, but it is not easy for me. I may seem social, but when it comes to confrontation, even mild, I tend to shy away and internalize what I want to say or what I feel. “Stifle yourself,” Archie Bunker would say. Well, that is one way of dealing with stress.
All that seems to ever get me is so anxious (i.e. emotionally constipated) and overwhelmed at NOT facing the confrontation.
Of course, this new life changing way of thought has played a toll on me. Evidently, I am an emotional eater (I suppose I have always lived in denial). It seems like the more of this crap I have faced, the more I have relied on food to comfort me during the process. However many pounds I have but back on (fluctuates between 10-18 pounds) are haunting me and making me feel like a failure. I am realizing now the patterns involved in why I am eating, and I believe there is a more to learn.
Point is, this is a good song. And I need to remember to forgive my own mistakes, and move forward.
It is just poor sportsmanship to get angry and throw down your game controller. Instead of resulting in a won battle, all you will end up with is a broken controller. Life is the same way. A positive attitude will get you much further than an angry, impatient attitude.
9. Be Adaptable.
Our technology driven world now requires us to constantly adapt. It is not wise to become an expert in only one field. Instead, diversify your experience so that you can better adapt to change or crisis. Don’t be afraid to go to your arsenal and use the tools and experiences you have earned.
8. Look for Patterns.
Don’t reinvent the wheel. Look for ways to maximize productivity and minimize effort. Once you have had experience with a certain situation, use that experience the next time that type of situation arises. Eventually, you will become an expert at that particular challenge. Seek opportunities that match your experience so that you can excel.
7. Persistence and Perseverance are Key!
It is pretty rare in life to excel and succeed at everything you do on your first try. More realistically, remember that you may have to do something several times before succeeding. Learn from your mistakes and try something different the next time around until you figure out what works for you. Do not give up, do not give in. Be persistent in your efforts, and before you know it, you will be an expert at that task.
6. Don’t Waste Time on Fruitless Efforts.
If you keep hitting the brick wall with your head and getting nowhere, move on. Chances are, you are missing out on a whole-lotta something good when you are focused on goals that lead nowhere.
5. Collect Experience.
As you move through life, be aware of each situation you face. Take from each situation the experience you gained, either from failing and learning from your mistakes, or from having achieved your goal. Those experiences will make you a more seasoned player, wiser than before.
4. Stash Away for your Future.
It is not wise to use all of your resources as you get them. Make a strategic plan to stash away as much as possible. Use only what is needed. You never know when you will face a serious challenge in life that will try to drain you of your resources and energies. Planning for potential catastrophes will prepare you for the battles you will face.
3. Plan Ahead.
Don’t wander aimlessly through life, because something will inevitably take you by surprise and squash you. Take a moment to identify all external factors around you. Are there any foreseeable roadblocks? Are there any foreseeable opportunities? How can you keep yourself safe while taking advantage of the opportunities?
2. Set Goals.
You can plan all you want, but without a goal, you will go nowhere. Determine where it is that you want to be…that is your short term goal.
1. Seek Opportunity.
To achieve greatness in life, you must do more than merely survive. Around every corner and behind every brick wall lay hidden opportunities. Scout them out and take advantage of them.
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